Your wedding day may have gone exactly as planned. From remembering your vows and serving delicious entrees and cake to having a romantic first dance with your new spouse, it is easy to see how this day can be so magical.
Unfortunately, a perfect wedding does not make a perfect marriage, so you may decide to start the divorce process. It is important to remember that you are not alone, since an estimated 40 to 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. The process is obviously stressful, but most couples are surprised by the physical, emotional and financial strain divorce puts on their family.
It is difficult to make your divorce a pleasant experience, but you can make the process a bit easier. In a recent blog, we discussed three mistakes couples make during a divorce and tips for avoiding them. Here are three more mistakes to avoid, so you and your spouse can dissolve the marriage amicably.
Asking Friends for Advice
In most cases, you have friends, family members and even coworkers who have gone through the divorce process. Many of these individuals will comment on your marriage and divorce, since they feel their past experience will be helpful. However, these individuals will more than likely be basing their advice around emotions, which can be devastating to your own divorce.
Because each person and each marriage is unique, seeking the advice of others who have gone through a divorce is unwise.
If you and your spouse agree that divorce is the best option for you and your family, the process can be emotionally and financially easier. Unfortunately, some couples may feel the need to fight through the details of a divorce. A litigated divorce will require an excessive amount of time in courtrooms and lengthy meetings with attorneys. To reduce the time and cost of a divorce, you and your spouse should consider mediation.
During mediation, you and your spouse can work out any contested items in an office setting, as opposed to a courtroom in front of a judge. Decisions regarding issues with spousal support, child support and even custody can all be discussed in an office with the help of third-party individuals.
Mediation not only reduces the time and stress of finalizing a divorce, but it can also reduce the expense by 40 to 60 percent and avoids litigation.
Using Social Media
Today, most people are active on social media sites. These sites are great ways to stay connected with friends and family all across the world, share interesting articles and videos and even network with individuals in the same line of work. Unfortunately, social media can also increase the risk of inappropriate behavior, which can lead to marital issues.
While it can lead to divorce, social media can also cause trouble while going through a divorce. If you have or are considering venting your frustrations on social media, close down your accounts immediately. Doing so will prevent you from posting personal information that others will see. In addition, closing your accounts will stop any desire you may have about speaking negatively of your ex on social media.
Venting on social media during a divorce may seem like a good way to release some tension, but it can end up hurting your case. If you have children, venting to friends on social media can also affect custody arrangements, increasing your risk of losing time with your children.
Going through a divorce is not an easy process, but you can make it a little easier. By avoiding non-professional advice, utilizing mediation and skipping social media, you can reduce the physical, emotional and financial strains of a divorce.