Divorce is hard on everybody. It is emotionally draining and time consuming on top of your already busy life. It is easy to get frustrated, and in frustration is where you can make a mistake that will end up costing you much more than it rightfully should. Below are 3 examples of common mistakes couples make when facing a divorce, and tips to avoid them.
Acting out of Anger / frustration
While emotions are running high, now is certainly not the time to be rash or uncritical. You must remain calm and rational, and be sure not to do anything that will give your ex-spouse undue leeway in the courtroom. A common example is taking any children and leaving the home without telling the ex-spouse where you or your children are (of course, in cases where abuse is present, it is a different story). At best, all this will do is cause resentment and spite, making the whole divorce process even more difficult. At worst, your ex-spouse may call the police, and use this act as grounds to gain more influence in the divorce proceedings.
Even if children are not involved, being spiteful and mean to your ex-spouse can do nothing to help the divorce process. Remain rational and calm, and the ordeal will be over sooner rather than later.
Rushing the process
Again, divorce is a painful thing, and many people attempt to rush through the process, sign all the papers, and move on. Divorce is a major life decision, and the outcome of the divorce will have lifelong consequences. Read everything you sign, be meticulous in discussing details with your lawyer and your ex-spouse. If both spouses talk through as much as they can, the process will go smoother, and the outcome will be fair.
Instead of rushing the process of divorce, there are occasions when one spouse decides that he or she has had enough, and gives up fighting for what is rightfully theirs. Giving up can allow your ex-spouse to take more than what is rightfully theirs, perhaps even involving custody of any children you may share.
While it can be tempting to just throw your hands in the air and give up, it is very important to maintain formality.
You can see through these examples that the typical issue when facing divorce is losing one’s rationality, decency, and civility. This process is of course difficult and emotional, but follow the above tips, and of course the advice of your lawyer, and the divorce should proceed fairly.